Ok...so how do I write this without sounding like a total flake or simply just another untrustworthy person looking for a pawn? This is the INTERNET after all.
Guess all I can say is that I would not be taking the time at 1am to be surfing through sites that just may be the answer to a void I can’t quite place. Im a 30 (in 2 weeks) year old fun loving girl with a passion for life and learning. Not too bad to look at, and aside from my dilemma...I’m happy. Problem is, I’m not sure where I have woken up and who’s body I am in.
I don’t know if it is the absence of any solid girlfriends I can count on for an understanding ear to validate me. I sometimes wonder if this is the way many women before me have come to the realization that perhaps they should aknowledge and research lingering desires and take a chance.
I am in a relationship for going on a year now. While we are great friends, so many things don’t add up. Moving in together and bouncing resort to resort has been fun - but I get a sense Im missing out. I love him - but sometimes I wonder if I haven’t maybe been ignoring my shifting mind and urges.
I have been with women before, and while I may have been drinking, I know that it wasn’t the alcohol that “made me” do it. It simply provided the guts to go for it. Lately, the only way I can get aroused is by the thought of being with a woman. A fair bit of the time, my boyfriend is there too - but those fantasies are fleeting. I am in such a tender place where I wish to feel emotionally connected, physically understood and sexually nurtured. I can’t really say I have ever HAD that before.
I have no one to talk to about any of this. He claims to be open minded, but the topic intimidates him. I don’t know if that fear ever subsides in men to get over their ego and just focus on exploration...in any case - I’m extremely lonely.
Im ultimately looking for a friend who can in part or whole, relate to my plight. Im very close to Victoria and Vancouver and know virtually no one out here. Im an Alberta girl that perhaps jumped the gun and moved too far....too soon.
But maybe this adventure out here will answer some questions in my heart and mind. While I value the merit of adventure - I promise you Im not crazy.
Serious replies only please.